If we must live as one Nigeria, we should settle our differences. #whimweb advocating for Peace in Nigeria

Still on the matter of feminists vs chauvinist, and as a sequel to my earlier post, here's my take: It is imperative we do not ignore the Bible's viewpoint on this matter. Not by twisting words of the scriptures to suit one particular narrative or the other, nor manipulating God's word to suit personal, sentimental, doctrinal, cultural or religious inclinations. But by balancing the scriptures in an unbiased, non-personal way as inspired by His Spirit. Personally, I've always held on to the notion of balance, all my life. You don't fight one extreme condition with the opposite extreme response. You don't pull one extremity towards the opposite extremity. No, you pull it to the middle. For instance, you don't say "since men have picked up the bride price line to effectively justify their abuse and manipulation of the woman, then women should also pay dowries, to counter them". No, I believe it would be better to reorientate the society's mindset on bride prices or stop the whole thing altogether. So it's imperative we balance out the scriptures, in this matter, not reading cut out pieces to form opinions and ignore the rest, but reading in full context. Enough with the introduction, for space sake I'll not quote all the scriptures but rather would just place the passages here to be read at convenience. Also forgive me for making it this long, again. I'll start with the scripture some feminists quote, the "submit to one another out of reverence for Christ" quote in Ephesians 5:21. They use this as a counter point against the chauvinists and pro-patriarchy debaters who use the words written in Eph 5:22-24, Col 3:18 and 1Pet 3:1-6 to push through their claims of (cheap) entitlement. While I'm an avowed feminist.. Ehm... I do not believe Paul was talking about family matters , or marriage for that matter, when he mentioned those words in Eph 5:21. The preceding verses, when read in context, show that he was talking about relationships between believers. He began talking about family matters in verse 22. Otherwise, it would imply parents should also 'submit' to their kids. Now I can see the misogynists jumping on their seats. Sit down abeg! I'm not finished. You guys like quoting Eph 5:22-24 right? Let's put it here: "22 Wives, sub­mit your­selves to your own hus­bands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the hus­band is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Sav­ior. 24 Now as the church sub­mits to Christ, so also wives should sub­mit to their hus­bands in ev­ery­thing.(NIV) " A lot of men pick out that 22nd verse and amplify it with the biggest loudspeaker or magnifying glass they can muster. Some women do not like hearing this sort of scriptures, some feel, because Paul did not get married, it was easy for him to put shackles of such caliber on the women folk. Well, Peter was married, and he said the same words in 1Pet 3:1-6. But we'll come there. Let's look at Eph 5:22 again. The Greek word for 'submit' as used here is hupotassō, and is the same word used in Luke 10: 17 and 20, where it was implied that demons were subject to Jesus and His disciples. It literally means 'to obey' , 'to be subject to' . That's why some men think the Bible is comparing them to the Lord in this matter. Mttcheww. Well, you might ask: does it imply men should be worshiped by their wives? Well, let me answer it this way: I do not believe the fact a woman was asked to submit means she's a subordinate per sey, or a slave or a servant. Infact I believe the Bible implies she is spiritually equal to the man (Gal 3:28). How? Like, I said, we have to balance the Scriptures here. Read the 23rd verse of Eph 5. It implies that the wife is to the man what the church is to the physical body of Christ. Now imagine a person without his body. Is he/she complete? Imagine someone hating his body enough to hurt it, mutilate it, wound it. Definitely you would be understood if you consider him suicidal and recommend he sees a psychologist or psychiatrist. Imagine a Jesus Christ without the church and all the essence of of Christ's existence is nearly void and questionable. Without the church, Christ's life and work and existence is for nothing. It was the evaporation of His blood that invented the vapor of grace, the sweet aroma of grace. Without us, Christ is not yet sitting at God's right hand. Christ is not yet exalted. There's a reason Christ calls His disciples 'brothers' (John 20:17). Because His death and resurrection initiated us into one brotherhood, one fraternity, one heritage,one sonship with Him. He says in Psalms 82:6 that we "are 'gods'... children of the Most High." There's a reason even He does not know the day of judgment (Matt 24:36)...Just like you and I. You see, we are Christ's equal partners. Without us, His body (and His work) is incomplete. Read the remaining verses of that chapter 5. It shows how a man should 'give himself up' for his wife. Consider how Jesus sacrificed Himself for us. Consider such love. Remember He was, before the world was born (this should be similar to a man's era of bachelorhood). Yet He counted us more worthy than His position. There was no ego. No insecurity. No pride. No demands. No insults. No sense of entitlement, (even though He would have been very justified if there was. But no there wasn't. Was He a fool to teach us men such mindset of selflessness and empathy?). See Him washing our feet through the disciples. See Him loving us so much he didn't care what anyone thought of Him. That is love. Exemplified love. The love men should strive to emulate if we call ourselves Christians. Why do we think He did all that? The Lord sees us as friends (Lk 12: 4), as His bride (2Cor 11:2), as partners in contributing to making His body, His work, complete. So when married, both the husband and wife form 'one body' of two EQUAL partners. Just as a person is not complete or alive without his body, so also is a husband without his wife. If you respect your body, respect your wife. She is an equal. A partner. Not a subordinate. Verse 31 says they've become 'one flesh'. Does that depict subordination or superiority? No, it suggests equality and partnership. The submission part of of the wife suggests one of consensual respect. Not coerced, not forced. Not demanded. Just as Christ does not demand our worship. It's our own choice to make. Just as Christ is our advocate before the Father, interceding for us, because we need a representative before His court..... thus, any family needs an advocate that represents that family in any sphere of life. It is a mutual decision. A consensual one. Whether it is the man or the woman, it should be decided between them. But the Bible suggests it should be the man. That does not mean he is the boss. No, he is the representative. A leader. The same way we can choose a lawyer to represent us in court is the same way we choose either Christ or the devil to be our 'lord' and the same way a woman can choose to submit to her husband. Marriage is not supposed to be a monarchy but a republic. Besides there are no credible monarchies anymore. Forget the argument of surnames. We should not leave core ideologies of feminism to squabble over trivial matters. If the wife desires to keep her name,is it a big deal? Once you can both see it as not a big deal and agree, I don't see the point. If there's equal love and equal respect, these matters matter not. Sorry, I digress. Let us go back to the topic. So husbands, do you want your wives to submit to you as reverence for Christ? Then love her as much as Christ loved us. I'm not saying you must "kill" yourself for her, but the same way Christ showed no ego, nor insecurity, nor any sense of entitlement, when loving us, so also should you. Is it impossible? Remember Christ did it even in human form, a form of symbolism of course. So why can't you love and respect her that much? Men have so abused this Biblical recommendation that more and more women have gotten disillusioned about men and marriage. Like Uchechi once quoted, feminism is the symptom of the problem,not the problem itself. You hate feminists? Then teach men to respect their wives' rights, feelings, welfare and interests and feminism will be a thing of the past. Shalom.

Good morning all. We hope you had a great weekend, and are getting ready for the new week. We believe lots of people will b making a lot of reservations and appointments as Monday dawns. We came up with a piece inspired through a number of people. And yes it's about healing our mindsets towards relationships. Find out more and God Bless you. http://whimweb.blogspot.com/2017/07/your-man-and-gods-presence.html #whimweb

Do not let the sins of the world or the mass, catch up with you. This will require a steadfast commitment to do what is right and shunning evil. Know ye also that your sin can corrupt every good deed and that your very good deeds will be tried by fire as gold put in the fire. May God keep you and us. Amen

Stumbled on this this morning. Proverbs 3:7-8 3:7 Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil.3:8 It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones. There are actually times we think we own tomorrow, other times we think we are better than the next person that we begin to allow pride or self righteousness creep its way into our hearts. But this scripture I read this morning somewhat calls me to order. *Christ never underestimated anyone. He in fact said something in John. 14:12 Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that believeth on me, the works that I do shall he do also; and greater works than these shall he do; because I go unto my Father. Meaning that even a child can do what He did. *Never boast about tomorrow. Even in our exercise of faith we should be careful of how we feel about man made idea of controlling our lives. 2:9 Not of works, lest any man should boast. Ephesians. *Fear the Lord, and depart from evil, for then is the beginning and growth of wisdom. Proverbs 1:7 The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction. Proverbs 8:13 The fear of the LORD is to hate evil: pride, and arrogancy, and the evil way, and the froward mouth, do I hate. It's a dire moment in the history of the world, when the ruler of this earth (the devil) parades himself for his heinous works, when the love of many has ran cold and the wickedness of man's heart showers like the morning mist touching and wetting every ground it can. Please flee from evil... For the wages of sin is death. Good morning all. #WHIM

Good morning everyone. It's been a while since we spoke. This has been due to some tight schedules. We hope you have a good and happy Sunday. We'll live with this: Don't value your talent than Salvation. Take your time to listen to God's word. #WHIM

WHIM says "Try being more understanding." A lot of relationships can be refreshed if we learn to understand people and give excuses for their wrongs and mistakes. Find out more. https://whimweb.blogspot.com.ng/2017/04/try-being-more-understanding_3.html?m=0 #WHIM

Psychologists have concluded that the need to feel loved is a primary human emotional need. For love, we will climb mountains, cross seas, traverse desert sands, and endure untold hardships. Without love, mountains become unclimbable, seas uncrossable, deserts unbearable, and hardships our plight in life. The Christian apostle to the Gentiles, Paul, exalted love when he indicated that all human accomplishments that are not motivated by love are, in the end, empty. He concluded that in the last scene of the human drama, only three characters will remain: “faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” God so loved you, that He gave you His only begotten son, as the greatest sacrifice. How much more love can we find than this? (John 3:16). Everyone needs a fair share of love, the sick, the needy, the orphans, the disabled, the lonely ones, the rich, the poor, the great, the small, the males, the females, the aged, the young, the married, the singles, the you and me. Make all efforts to show someone some love, today, and tomorrow. #WHIM

Sometimes the truth hurts, but never as much as being told a lie. When you fail to tell someone the truth because you don't want to hurt their feelings, you risk hurting them more. "Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, and pray one for another that ye may be healed" (James 5:16)... Always tell the truth... Curled from The Word for Today.... #WHIM.

Life's hit us lots to keep up with, and as parents, intending ones, teenagers and kids we all are posed with the challenge of keeping with loads of activities and engagement and sometimes end up sparing less time for a gift we have, the gift of family. Take out time to find out more about how to keep closer ties with family. Family time another lovely time. https://whimweb.blogspot.com.ng/2017/01/spend-more-time-with-your-family.html?m=0 #WHIM

Better is a broken engagement than a broken marriage... Good morning everyone. #WHIM

Stumbled on this... Well, some crazy filthy things that you use every day.. . This will call for more hygiene. http://time.com/4620966/dirty-germ-bacteria/