Yes exactly !! 36 and single ! Alone and unloveable is an irrational conclusion you have reached about yourself through no fault of yours . As this shared article suggests we can with awareness begin to change what counselling views as our ‘ internal working model of self ‘, in relationships- for YOURSELF - not because you are flawed - just human and deserving of relationship.

Relationship Conflict is hard - learning to acknowledge that you are two different people and negotiate conflict builds good relationships - you can do this in couples counselling - read this shared article for a really good explanation - peace be yours !

Worry not - Remember this !

Relationships are difficult - nobody is perfect including ourselves - so stand back and think overall is this person somebody I could write a ‘life story ‘ with ?- a serious reflection by Esther Perel makes good reading!

Do you condemn yourself, criticise yourself for past errors and mistakes and are never quite satisfied with you. This is the year to explore how and why that is - awareness is key to changing , challenging and educating you to know and love yourself. Free to be just you - a work in progress!!

Family dynamics and triangles are real - recognising your role creates awareness to change - also key to managing groups in work or outside the family since we often unconsciously repeat the dynamic - our first ever group is family so get that right and a lot follows. Happy holidays !

Don’t compare yourself to others- read this - ‘where we are Just Now serves it’s own purpose even if we don’t really understand.’ There is a time for everything . Embrace 2018 and Your own unfolding path .

Relationships are difficult. Interesting read about a very emotional subject often not rationally explored due to hurt ,guilt, confusion and so on - but for the party that has been cheated on, affairs are terrible and painful, but can also become a starting place for learning and growth. Couples counselling can help.

Believe this - no matter what is or has happened - we can bring hope and meaning to our lives out of these experiences - we owe it to ourselves to do that and counselling can help. Be at peace !

Try this but please begin with sincerely forgiving yourself for holding the hurt in the first place as compassion for self is in the key to all emotional healing and continued wellbeing.

Look at a newborn baby - could you decide there was anything wrong with it ? - life is often difficult but somehow we forget to honour ourselves for getting through it and keeping going. All is well come home to you just as you are !